My husband keeps putting me down?

Our relationship is pretty good the majority of the time, but there are times when he points out all my flaws, finds negative things about me, and generally makes me feel guilty. On more than one occasion he has called me lazy, worthless and f**king stupid amongst other derogatory comments. I do my best to keep the house nice when he is a at work and make food etc. He isn't sexist, we made a deal that if he was working I do the house stuff if I was out of work at the time and visa versa. Sometimes he can be so critical to a point where I cry and can't stop... like last night. Its a long story but to put a long story short he played the guilt trip... again. I was feeling so bad about my self, I started hyperventilating, and his response was "why are you crying Laura? I NEED TO SLEEP!" I tried to run away from the house as it helps me to get some air and gather my thoughts, but he became psycho, and grabbed by the arm throwing my shoes at the wall really hard... then started pulling me into the bed room screaming at me to go to sleep. I freaked out... and just had to go to bed and ignored him the rest of the nigh, because I know that when ever he tries to question me... it leads to another massive fight.... I just don't know what to do anymore. It depresses me... please help?